Tackling love. That is the journey I am on this year. I want to dissect love according to what God tells us about it in His word. If this journey was on a mountain and I was hiking along a trail, I would tell you that I have stopped as the trail bowed out and brought me to the edge of the mountain. I am standing with a clear view of the raven below and the soaring mountain across the wide open expanse. To my surprise I see something climbing up from the raven to the top of the mountain. This thing sorta looks human, sorta looks like bigfoot, and is ugly as sin. What is most striking are its large green eyes. I’m surprised that I can even see them that far in the distance, but they seemed to glow. In this creature’s hand is a megaphone, a really large one at that. The creature climbs the mountain oddly, not bent over trying to ground himself, but upright, erect, head held high, and always looking to and from as if he was looking to see if someone was watching. When he reaches the top, he raises the megaphone to his mouth and speaks out with great confidence, first to the right of him and then to the left, so that the whole forest below can hear. Little creatures, before unseen by me, peek their heads out from their hiding places to see and hear this creature. He has them captivated. But then all of the sudden, seemingly out of nowhere a huge ferocious lion leaps from behind a rock and tackles this unsightly loud creature to the ground and knocks the megaphone from his hand. He doesn’t kill the creature, but roughs him up just enough as to teach him a lesson. The creature then grabs the megaphone and rapidly descends into the raven. The visible little creatures rejoice with little chirps and squeals and then go back into hiding. The lion disappears as well. Then I notice a peace and calm over the land that I inhabit and carry on with my journey, trying to make sense of what I just witnessed.
Love. I want love to be warm and fuzzy as the sun on my skin at the beach or the microfiber blanket freshly bought, at an amazing price at Costco, in the fall. The way God talks about love is more gritty like the sand on the beach and that feeling of the microfiber blanket getting too hot and you want to shed it and turn on the ac. Love can make you uncomfortable. Period. Plan and simple.
Love does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Bible/I Corinthians 13:4
This is not the stuff that Romantic movies are made of, but more on the tough side of love.
I wanted to meditate and really think on what it is to not envy and then low and behold envy comes my way. Back a few months ago, my husband had to take a business trip for a sales meeting in another state. These meetings happen about two times a year. He flies a way to stay in a nice hotel and eat out. I’m jealous. This time the hotel looked not like a 5 star but a 7 star hotel. Yes, the green-eyed monster was coming out in me. But then I had to remember that love does not envy, so I had to work/pray at changing my attitude. When I thought of my husband and all his hard work, I was happy that he got to stay in the Grande Dubai Palace…...um I meant really nice hotel.
But then this trying to love the way God talks about got harder. And I will be vague as to not reveal too much. Someone else came on the radar of having what I wanted and I struggled with envy. Envy wants what someone else has. At a deeper level I think envy is looking at what God gave someone else and didn’t give you. I have to remember that it isn’t my world, I don’t run it, and God does. When I envy someone else, I am focus on the wrong thing. I turn my heart toward coveting and away from thankfulness and dependence on Jesus. Oh I hate it when my heart envies! That was the green-eyed monster on the hike! Oh and how it is ugly as sin, because it is sin. What is the cure, you may ask? The only way to love someone and not let the monster of envy come out of the pit is to look to Jesus and thank him for what He has given you and ask him to tackle the monster and take him down.
Remember the old Pantene commercial that had the slogan, “Don’t hate me because I’m beautiful?” Well I want to say, don’t hate me for what I’m about to write. Love does not boast. What is boasting? Boasting is when you toot your own horn, as my mother would have said to me as a child. Boasting is trying to make yourself look good to others by telling them what you have, or what you have done. It is when the monster takes the megaphone, climbs the mountain and announce to the world what he just got, or has, or does. I see this on Facebook all the time. We are a boasting generation. Some might say we are a sharing generation. There is a very fine line between the two. Last night I was talking about this to my three sons. I wanted to hear what they had to say. One son said that you have to boast and put yourself out there, and I think that is just how we feel in this generation. So if love does not boast, then why? Why is boasting not considered loving by a loving God? If I boast I draw attention to myself, like the green-eyed monster on the mountain. When I boast I elevate myself and draw attention to the fleeting things in my life. I make me big, on the mountain top. I make all the little creatures in my life small. I can also tempt someone to envy when I boast. If I boast and brag about my vacation and someone sees that who can just barely make their mortgage payment this month, I may have caused them to envy me. If I see someone get a beautiful new car and my old clunker is going into the shop and needs half a mortgage worth of repairs, it sorta double tanks me.
So how can I share on social media without boasting? Well, let me tell ya it is not saying that “God has blessed me” with this or that every time you “share” a boast. One of my dear dear friends and I talked about this. It is such a dangerous trap for those who follow Jesus, to tell the world how God is blessing them. We think we are giving glory to God, but I dare say it is a way to cover up our own boasting. God’s blessings do not always come in earthly “good” ways. I have had a rough time of accepting that I have a child that gets sick frequently. It feels like a curse, but it may just be a blessing. I do not know what God is doing in his life to grow him and shape him for future service to Himself and humanity. I do not know how many connections have happened with people that are God ordained and have come through this hard difficult blessing. God doesn’t always bless us with what we think are good things, sometimes he blesses us with trials to do the good in us he wants done. So to share about something that we see culturally as good and stamp it with God’s blessing, is in some ways proclaiming favor with God and making others wonder way they missed the boat. Be careful what you share with others, I urge you follower of Jesus to heed what Paul writes in I Corinthians 10:17 “But, "Let the one who boasts boast in the Lord." If you say that God is blessing you, save it for friends and family who know that you speak that way in humility.
Love is not proud. Pride is worldly and not from God.
I John 2:16 “For everything in the world--the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life--comes not from the Father but from the world.”
I have been reading a book on humility and it is kicking my butt. I know that for over a decade the Holy Spirit has been scraping pride from my heart like a wood carver chisels wood. He is gentle and is taking His time and just when I think he is getting close to being done, nope, there is more. Argh! So frustrated with myself. This book is opening my eyes to the fact that Jesus is our perfect one to look to for humility. He totally submitted himself to the Father and came to do his work.
NEWS FLASH!!!!! Christian - YOUR LIFE ISN’T ABOUT YOU!!!!!!!!!!!! (I need to hear this too!)
Colossians 3:3 “For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.”
We are called to be dead to self. Ouch.
We are called to be alive in Christ! Wow!
Pride is the opposite of humility. Pride promotes self. Humility promotes the one served. Jesus came to serve. We are to be servants of all just as our Lord. And that really hits me between the eyes. I forget that truth, and my pride gets in the way.
Oh that God would be the lion on the hike and tackle me down, knock the wind of pride right out of my sail, and kick my megaphone to the side.
I’m working on wrapping my head around humility, and what it looks like in the everyday world of life.
One of my long time heart-to-heart friends and I were chatting it up a few nights ago. We both have worked as full time home and family slaves…..um I’m meant to say…..Family Managers for a very long time. She recently got hired on to a full-time job at her church. We often have talked and dreamed together of where we want God to take us and use us. We have in our own mind of what that will look like. After I got off the phone, I realized that God was using her right where she was at. She is the receptionist at a large church on the Central Coast of CA. I shared with her the many times the women who answered the phone at the church that I attended, and it has been different churches as we have moved around a lot, often ministered to my heart the most. Also, that the women who answer the phone, if they are kind and speak with love and respect, can make someone comfortable enough to share a bit so that they can be directed to the right person at the church. Being the first link in the chain is important. She also has taken in a young lady that has a father who lives a life in and out of jail. My friend in shaping the life of this young lady and modeling Jesus style love in this situation to her three children that will shape their lives forever.
My dear friend thinks she is just working as a receptionist, a lowly entry level job as she puts it. She is more than that and I know that God has her in the right place for service to him, which is obedience to Him and loving others. She wants to work in the youth department at her church and feels that she is well equipped to work in that department. She is working with youth! In her own home, with her own children, her children’s friends, and the young lady that they have taken in.
So what does this all have to do with humility? I can see that God has placed her in humble positions to serve him and the people he brings in her life. By seeing this in her life it speaks to me about my humble places and how I need to trust that God is working…...because sometimes hanging out in the humble places can make you feel that you are left out of the game. But God is showing me that the game of life is everywhere and all the people are important ones. He loves all, He came in the Son and died for all.
Christian, I urge you to love by not envying, be happy for what God has for others, he hasn’t left you out, and maybe He is leaving you out of the secret trials that they bear. I urge you to love by not boasting. Drop the “God is blessing me” disclaimer because there are brothers and sisters in Christ who are struggling with the trials they are in and you don’t want to cloud their view of God in their life.
Check yourself, is it sharing or bragging? Is it tooting your own horn? I urge you to ask God to tackle your pride and kick it to the curb and help you to live with humility. I urge these all on myself. Because you see, while I was on the hike looking across the raven at that ugly-as-sin green-eyed monster pridefully climbing the mountain to pull up the megaphone and bring attention to itself…….I saw myself. Vomit. Kill the monster!