Thursday I get to take a plane down to CA to go see family and friends. I planned the trip because my mom is turning 70 and I didn't want to miss her milestone birthday. I'm super excited to go!
Before going to get groceries I stopped at Starbucks. As the barista was taking my money and giving me my order I told her about my trip and that I was headed to the store to get a ton of food so that my four men would survive. She said that her mom would do the same before going to a retreat. Having three older brothers made it easy for her to understand my plight. Sometimes when I share my stories of family life and its trials the ladies I meet at the shop, who are older than me, tell me things like, "Just make them do it." I just play it off because it is just too much to explain why I still am taking care of this guys the way I do. It was refreshing to have this young lady get it. Thanks, Starbucks barista for getting me today!
Lesson: When you "get" someone affirm them! We get enough people telling us how we are doing what we are doing wrong (and if someone is really in error it is important to lovingly correct them) but not when it is just preferential stuff. And if you don't get why someone does what they do, you can just smile and nod your head and walk away.