Old things are new and new things feel old. I found an old thing that is now new to me and I have a new friend that feels like an old one.
Today I had a friend date at Goodwill. My friend and I were planning on connecting on her side of town and I said that I was going to stop by the Goodwill first and she said that we could meet there. Usually, I just meet up with someone for coffee so this was unusual.
The thing I love about Goodwill shopping is that you can find things that you sorta have been wanting or didn't know you wanted at such a good price sometimes. The weird thing is that I always crave some bargain shopping after I have purged a closet or storage place. It's like I really want to be a minimalist but my true self wants to keep the number of items that I own in equilibrium. For the past few days, I have been cleaning out my all-purpose closet (the go-to place for things like batteries and band-aids) and thus the need to go second-hand shopping. *Let me show you how tidy this closet is now!
For the sake of nostalgia, I love second-hand shopping. I love seeing things that used to be all the rage now sold again. Of course, they are now someone's cast offs and that is a lesson to me. I have seen things that were expensive and used to be very popular items to have, but now they have been discarded by someone and sold at a discount. This makes me realize that trendy items have a short shelf life and at some point, they won't be worth much and you will have to buy new things to be trendy. I caught on to this same trendy awareness when I was teen fashion magazine obsessed as a teen. To keep up you had to keep paying up! I realized then that I would need to be a classic kind of girl because no one in my family, nor myself, was able to keep forking out cash all the time to keep up with the trends. The best style to have is your own. Decorate how you like, dress how you like, and save your money. Chasing trends is fun but you will have to have quite a fund to play the game.
The friend I met at the store is a fairly new friend. We met this summer, the day we were putting up the pool. The knock at the door was answered by my husband. He stepped outside and didn't return. I thought it was someone selling something or Mormon missionaries. Whoever it was I wanted him to deal with them. He came back in and told me I should go out there and meet these people, they were from the church that we were new to. What? I didn't know he filled out a visitor card. So out I went to two men and a lady. One of the men and the lady talked with me, the other one kept silent. I chatted a bit, and the talking man said that the lady and I should get together. I sorta felt sorry for the lady, having him suggest this because maybe she didn't want to get together with me. A little time after the visit we met for coffee at my house and we sorta just felt comfortable with each other and off we went with a new friendship.
After our Goodwill friend date, she had to go and pick up on of her children and get her home. We then met at a coffee shop and enjoyed a visit. I needed some advice on a couple of things and wanted to get her take on a few things I was struggling with. I don't usually ask for advice. I don't usually make myself vulnerable like that. My normal way of handling things is to figure it out on my own, pray, and talk to my husband about it. I haven't had really good experiences with advice from others and shy away from it. The difference with my new friend is that I feel that she isn't judgemental. I trusted that she would take what I told her and give me her honest opinion and would listen well and help me sort things out. I'm so glad that I was right. She did a very good job at listening and sorting with me through options and coming to really good conclusions.
One thing God is working on with me is showing me that I can't go it alone. He made everyone with different strengths and talents and we are supposed to use those to help others. I need to be humble and ask for and receive help. Sometimes the burden gets heavy and I need to rely on someone to help carry my load.
Today's lesson: Finding treasures, whether things that bring you joy or friends that help carry your load are worth their weight in gold! (and the stuff I said in the previous paragraph!)