This post is for 1/16/19
Today, at the quilt shop, I met a lady who had just moved here from Paradise, CA. She shared with me how her house burned down in the fires back in November. She said she lost everything. She and her husband were able to stay in a cabin near Paradise that was offered to them by a friend. Although she was very grateful for the temporary house it was a 45-minute drive from any store and she found it difficult to live so remotely.
She and her husband found a mobile home here and she was looking to build up her sewing room. Her head tilted back as she recalled her perfect sewing room that was now ashes. She said she had to sew. That was something that I could relate to. What people may not realize is that sewing is therapy.
Quilt shops can be like a free walk-in therapy center too! I visit with a lot of ladies and a few men. Often they open up and share with me what is going on. Ok, I do a little prying too. But here is the thing I know, telling your story to someone has great therapeutic value. It gives the thoughts in your head a voice. Those thoughts also need to be gathered, organized and put together in a sensible manner in order for the voice to communicate what is in the heart. All of that helps a hurting soul make sense of their experience and the person is not only telling their story to someone else, but they. are also mostly telling their story to themselves. That telling of their story, in turn, helps them make sense of the thing that has happened and aids in the healing process.
Not all quilt shops have this value-added service, but when you walk into the one I work at I give this service for free. People need therapy, um I mean listening to, because we all have broken pieces. Sewing is therapy and a good quilt shop is therapy too!
Lesson: When someone is telling you something that happened to them, listen without giving them a "here is how you fix-it" type of response. They are doing self-repair by telling you their story.