I can't speak for men but this is something I do know about women, we need to share about our life with one another. My youngest son was telling me last night about a video he was watching on Youtube about how dudes are. He said that dudes can just be friends and not even know each other's age. He told me other characteristics of dudes and how he identified with them. "I don't understand women," he said. "I don't even understand you sometimes. And when you and dad aren't getting along I don't understand why you do/say what you do" he added. He will be 17 years old tomorrow. He has so much to learn. I tried to explain that women need to share their lives with each other and we do this by talking. It is different with dudes because they are more likely to go and do activities together. He may never totally get it but I hope that this will help him when he has a special gal in his life.
I just never know when someone walks in the door what will transpire. There are times that my friendliness is met with a cold sholder and other times that people's openness surprises them and me alike.
One lady came in and wanted to ask about her quilt that she left with a longarm quilter months back. I let her know that the longarm quilter that she spoke of just lost her son to cancer and that I would call her to find out about the quilt, but she may not have it done due to her life circumstances. She said she understood and that she too lost her son. She proceeded to share with me about her son's suicide and how she found him and many details of that horrific moment of her life. I know that she didn't come in to the store to share that with me but I told her that I was glad that she did. It wasn't that I wanted to hear her trajedy but I want to be able to know what things are like for others so that I can be compassionate if I ever meet someone else with the same type of experience.
The same day another woman shared about how when she was 10 years old she had a stroke and many details of that time of her life. She told me that she was surprised that she told me, and people she had known for over 15 years didn't even share this with. I was please to hear that she found me easy to talk to, I want to be that person.
Other women chatted about their grey hair and how that had given up on coloring it. One other woman who must have been in the store to hear this later visited with me and said that she was 62 years old and still coloring her hair. We talked about how we both still wanted to try and look nice and do the upkeep for that. We had a moment of likemindedness and commoradity.
We as women need one another. Our lives are complicated as they are woven together with loved ones and we carry a large load of caretaking within family and friends.
We have a pretty special group of ladies that are a part of the store. One of them enters the door of the shop like Norm from the t.v. show Cheers (remember that it was about people who work and frequent a bar/ our store is like a bar). I have found myself saying her name out loud like the characters of that show yelled Norm when he enters! Today my boss, another one of the ladies of the store who volunteers, and I shared out concerns for another one of our group who is having health issues. I'm proud to be a part of a group of gals who watch out for one another. When one is down we pitch in to be there and that is how it should be among friends.
I want to leave you with the lyrics from the theme song of Cheers. This song is simple but true. I get to do this at my job. It isn't my job but as a woman who cares about Jesus and people, it is my job.
Making your way in the world today
Takes everything you got
Taking a break from all your worries
It sure would help a lot
Wouldn't you like to get away?
Sometimes you want to go
Where everybody knows your name
And they're always glad you came
You want to be where you can see
The troubles are all the same
You want to be where everybody knows your name
You want to go where people know
The people are all the same
You want to go where everybody knows your name