I can distinctly remember one day, nine days ago, when my oldest son and I took the dog for a walk. He was in his freshman year of high school and he was being homeschooled. Spanish class was the subject of the walk, well at least what preseeded the real topic at hand. Learning a new language is a challenge. I can still remember the first day of high school Spanish I. I had no real interest in taking the class for the sake of the subject matter, I just wanted to impress the boy I was in love with because he spoke Spanish. That first class was confusing. The teacher wrote words on the board and talked about conjugating verbs. I didn't even know what that meant in English! As we walked and talked I could understand his angst over the subject at hand. But being the mom I took the opportunity to encourage him to stick it out and get through the class because someday he may want to go to college. Oh, this did not sit well with him! He did not want to go to college.
Three years after that walk we had another talk. Yes, once again I was encouraging him to go to college. And after I gave him all the good reasons he should go he finally said, "Ok, mom I will do it for you." No. That would not do. I did not want him resenting me for feeling like he had to do something just for me. I wanted my kids to grow up and be able to make choices to create their own lives. So he worked and moved out. Ouch. That was difficult. Not to worry, like most kids, he moved back and moved out and then moved back.
Today was the day that I saw the tulip bloom. He has had some changes in his work life and he realized that to get where he wanted to go in life he would need to get some schooling under his belt. We had another talk. I love that after all this time and work of raising him that we are finally good friends. I'm still Mom, but he is a man now and I respect that he is different than me, even though we are a lot alike. (Weird to be different and alike at the same time!)
He told me his plans to go to college. He had to come to this on his own. But I couldn't help of thinking that my two lips planted the seed of this long ago. Tulips need time to germinate under the soil. It looks like they are just going to stay buried forever, and then a surprise happens and the ground cracks and they emerge. And that is exactly what happened today!